On Honesty...

Tried to socialize this night, I do most thursdays :)

I think I'm focusing too much on what sets me apart from other people, instead of what we have in common. Would it help, perhaps, to try the opposite?

I also seem to focus, overly much, on everything having to feel right the first time I meet someone. I tend to think that talking to someone without feeling that feeling would be false somehow, that I wouldn't be really genuine....

To a point of course, that's true, but I seem to have gotten it backwards. I stay true to myself in small things, with people I don't really know, while being way too accomodating in things that really matter, with people with whom I'd want a healthy relationship...

Thus gaining all of the drawbacks of unhandy honesty, but none of it's benefits!

I guess I simply have to get more assertive, don't really think I can get more accomodating right now, not while remaining vertebrate.